Mary Jo Elliott Cairnes

Wednesday, August 5, 1925 - Saturday, August 8, 2020

Holding Her Memory In Our Hearts

Photo of Mary Jo Elliott Cairnes  - 1925-2020

Mary Jo (Elliott) Cairnes, 95, passed away at home on Saturday, August 8, 2020.

She was born August 5, 1925 to the late Julius L. Elliott and the late Carrie Coleman Elliott. She was also predeceased by her loving husband, Bill Cairnes; son, David A. Cairnes; sisters, Ina Penland, Hazel Jones, Marie Wilson, Willabelle McElrath, and Francis Wright; and brothers, Norman Oscar Elliott, James Elliott, Robert Frank Elliott, and Wayne Elliott.

Mary Jo is survived by her four grandchildren, Ruth, Stephen, Sophia, and Ian as well as four great-grandchildren, Levi, Logan, Chloe, and Adrianna.

Mary Jo was raised in Murphy, North Carolina along with nine siblings during the height of The Great Depression.  She learned as a child about hard work and dedication to family and gave us the Mary Jo we have been so fortunate to know.  Her marriage to Bill Cairnes was long and full of love.  Together they made a happy and prosperous home for their only son David and extended that same welcoming security to their grandchildren.

We will remember Mary Jo for the kind and caring soul that she was.  We appreciate her selflessness and how she looked to provide the comfort and wellbeing of others before herself.  We mourn her passing, yet are thankful for her long and fruitful life.

Funeral Services will be private and limited to the family members.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made in her honor to The American Heart Association 1-800-242-8721 or or to the East Canton Baptist Church, 42 Sharptown Rd, Canton, NC 28716.

Below is a poem that Grandma Jo said she wanted to be shared after she passed as something to bring comfort to those who mourn her.


When tomorrow starts without me
and I’m not here to see,
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
filled with tears for me,

I wish so much you wouldn’t cry
the way you did today,
While thinking of the many things
we didn’t get to say.

I know how much you love me,
As much as I love you,
And each time you think of me,
I know you’ll miss me too.

When tomorrow starts without me,
Don’t think we’re far apart,
For every time you think of me,
I’m right there in your heart.

 -by David M. Romano


Crawford / Ray Funeral Home and Cremation Service is honored to be caring for the Cairnes family.

Condolences from family and friends

May she rest in peace. A lovely lady with a strong spirit.
Phil Salmon
"Grandma" Jo has been one of the finest people our family has been blessed to know. Her door was always open for a visit and her heart and words so warm with welcome. She had such love for God, her family and friends. The last I spoke with her by phone, she sang a song to me. A song she sang upon arriving at church, in her car, about her faith and blessings. She will always be loved and her life has been a testimony and inspiration to us. Always seeing her faith shine through. Her light will forever shine.
The Hewitt Family Bill, Pat, & Susan
We are so sorry to hear of the passing of Mary Jo, 4but happy for her home going. She was a very special lady to us and we loved and will miss her. Rev. Danny and Darlene Long
Darlene Long