Mary-Lou Brown Stamey

Monday, April 27, 1936 - Sunday, June 14, 2020

A Talented and Giving Lady

Photo of Mary-Lou Brown Stamey  - 1936-2020

Candler- Mary-Lou Brown Stamey, 84, passed away peacefully at home, from complications of metastatic breast cancer on Sunday, June 14, 2020.

Born April 27, 1936 in Buncombe County, she was the daughter of the late Bertie and Neville Brown. She was a graduate of Candler High School and later earned her degree in Home Economics from Western Carolina University.  Her cake baking was legendary.  She taught cake decorating at A-B Tech for many years and made hundreds of wedding and birthday cakes. She loved teaching and went on to be a regular substitute teacher with Buncombe County Schools. In addition to her culinary skills, she was quite a painter and enjoyed painting Christmas ornaments every year for gifts. She spent a lot of time being crafty, working in the garden and loved watching the birds at the feeder every morning. A lifelong member of Pleasant Hill UMC, which she loved dearly, she founded the Children’s Church and loved every child in her care. She was a Sunday School teacher, choir director, and organist. She participated in the UMW and served for several years as an officer for the Asheville District, including as President. Her cherished memory will forever remain with her family and with those that she has touched throughout her life.

She is survived by her loving husband of 57 years, Eugene Stamey;  her daughter, Leisa Stamey; her son, Philip Stamey and his wife, Susie; two grandchildren, Daniel and Emma Stamey; her sister, Iris Wells; her niece, Sheila Hand and her husband, Hollis; her brother, Carroll Brown and his wife, Lucy; as well as several special cousins and many friends.

Contributions in Marylou’s memory can be made to Pleasant Hill UMC or Heifer International, which was always a special project for her, at

The family would like to thank CarePartners Hospice for their kind help during this difficult time.

A celebration of her life will be held at a later date to be shared with her family and many friends.

Crawford / Ray Funeral Home and Cremation Service is honored to be caring for the Stamey family.

Condolences from family and friends

Leisa my sympathies to you, your father, brother and the entire family. I know how difficult it is to suffer the loss of someone you love dearly. Reading the obituary it is obvious to me that she touched so many lives in a positive way. What an exemplary life she led.
Louise Smith
She is such a lovely person!! Her kindness and generosity touched so many! My heart is with you all.
Sue Butk
Dear Leisa, Dad and Family, My heart breaks for you all I know it’s been a long road but you can now find peace knowing that your Mom/wife is not hurting anymore, one of the hardest thing is to watch them suffer and you can’t do anything about it. You are in my thoughts and prayers Much love Janet
Janet Burke
Lisa — I’m so sorry for your loss. This obituary is a wonderful testimony of your mother. What a beautiful lady who obviously loved giving to others. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours in these days of grieving.
Debra Gaddy
Leisa you took such good care of your mom. I'm sure all of us that went home with you from WCU quickly knew that your mom's love of baking and helping your church grow was dear to her heart. I pray that your dad, you, and Philip find comfort in knowing she has no more pain and is at total peace. Love to you all.
Lynn Bartenfield Rios
Iiesa and Gene, I an so sorry and send love and peace to you and Gene, she was such an example for all with her love and devotion to every one. I will miss her advice and thoughts on anything you needed help with. Love you both.l
Celia gordon
My condolences to the family. May you find peace in this difficult time!!
Veva McDuffie Pait
Dear Leisa, my deepest condolences to you and your family. I know your mother will always hold a special place in your heart. Her life was rich in so many ways, and that love and richness will live on forever. She is in the presence, of God and is no longer in pain. She will be watching over you with her love, even as my own mother watches over me. May you always be strong for your family. Keep the faith.
Jackie Cassada
Leisa, I am so sorry to hear about Mary-Lou. I have been asking about her through Poppa Charley and he would tell me what he knew. I had plan to come to North Carolinas in April but wasn't able to due to this Covid-19 and I had told Pop that I wanted to see her because I knew she wasn't doing well. I will be praying for all of you to find peace. Love to all.
Tina Brown
Dear Gene, Leisa, and family, Your extended Stamey family in Georgia sends our love and prayers of comfort for you at this difficult time. Among so many of Mary-Lou's accomplishments was being the driving force and leader of our family reunions at Pleasant Hill UMC. Her devotion to the family she chose by marriage was an inspiration. We will carry on her work, gathering together the Stamey clan, as a way of honoring her and continuing one of her many legacies. Almighty God, look with pity upon the sorrows and grieving of Mary-Lou's family, of friends of Mary-Lou and all who grieve. Remember them, Lord, in your mercy; nourish them with patience; comfort them with a sense of your goodness; lift up your countenance upon them; and give them peace; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.
Nancy Stamey Eubanks
I’m so sorry for your loss. Remember the good times. Your mom looked like a wonderful person. I can see where you get your wonderful personality.
Carol Haley